I have struggled a bit this summer as a “single mom”. No cause for alarm, I am not really a single mom – I couldn’t hack it. I have so much respect for single parents who truly Do It All. For us, it’s just the circumstances we are in this season as Daddy Bruss is starting to travel more with the work he is doing.
I am trying to have a conversation every morning with our kiddos. It goes like this: I share what is on my list of things to do, I tell them how I expect the day is going to go. Then I ask them: what is it that you wanted to do today…and can we please be nice to each other and keep Crazy Mommy in her box???
So many deep breaths…it helps so much to be mindful. Saying out loud, “I am taking deep breaths because I do not want to yell.” Peaceful Mama does manage to stick around most days. And if Crazy Mama does come out to
play yell, I promptly apologize and we start over.
Somehow, I have turned into the person they ignore. Daddy Bruss noticed it – I am not quite sure what to do about that piece yet. One thing I am going to start doing is a morning mindfulness practice, inspired by THIS news story. One thing to love about this internet age…so many awesome meditations are available for free on the web.
Something that stopped me in my tracks recently is that the lyrics to a Mindy Gledhill song, called Anchor, *really* resonate with Otter. She has only heard the song a handful of times, and she can already sing the words along with the music. This particular stanza stopped my heart…
“There are those who think that I’m strange
They would box me up, and tell me to change
But you hold me close and softly say
That you wouldn’t have me any other way”
Read more: Mindy Gledhill – Anchor Lyrics | MetroLyrics
Seriously…when a four-year old can sing this…oh my heart. I am totally committed to being that Peaceful Mama. I want to be that person that they know is holding them just the way they are…not asking them to change anything for me…just meeting them where they are and loving them unconditionally. It is also my reminder that all my children need me to snuggle them in and tell them that they are treasured.
On a related note, I have always loved the line in the Olivia book, by Ian Falconer, where the mother says to Olivia, “You know, you really wear me out. But I love you anyway.” See a version of the book HERE
That is me right now in this season. I am worn out. Yet I know that I am doing the best job in the world, nurturing and loving and growing the next generation.
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I am so grateful for my village of amazing mamas and grandmas that inspire me and give me the courage to do my best every single day. Without them, I would be sinking through this season. Thanks to them, I know I can do this.
I am also thankful for the Living God that we serve. I know that with His help, I do have the peace that surpasses all understanding right here, to be accessed as soon as I can be still. It is an awesome peace that reassures me that I really am not alone and that I am striving for a higher purpose.
I can do this.
P.S. Even though I am more worn out than ususal this season, Life Must Go On!! HERE is the time management tool I use to determine what I really need to do every day…I still want to keep up with our blogs, the kiddos have places to go, we have a new birthing class starting at the end of the month, and I have a couple of projects in the work…all are worthy and I want to be present for my children and the commitments I have made.